You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge

Psychologists use the term “perceptual defense” to describe those things our minds cannot face up to. This is commonly called “denial” and damages every aspect of our lives. Why? Without first being able to see and name the problem, you’ll never be able to deal with it; over time it consumes you.

Follow the way of Alcoholics Anonymous when looking at your life: You can only get better once you admit you have a problem. “What most people want is not truth, but validation,” McGraw says. We desperately want to be right, even if what we are doing is not working. But to have change, you must do differently.

Philip C. McGraw

Dr. Phil's Nefarious 15 List - Philip C. McGraw

Dr. Phil's Nefarious 15 List

If you've ever met someone who made the hairs on the back of your neck stand on end, take note: Dr. Phil says bad guys, or BAITERs, possess certain qualities that should spark suspicion. Watch as he goes through the Nefarious 15—methods by which these individuals worm their way into your life.

Identify Bad Guys with Dr. Phil's 8 Warning Signs

How do you spot a BAITER before he or she infiltrates your life? Dr. Phil reveals the Evil 8, his comprehensive list of red flags. Plus, he warns against meddling in friends' unhealthy relationships and explains why life is a game—you either play or get played.

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