Your Dark Side: Own It or It Owns You by Mike Bundrant

Do you have feelings that you hate?
Do you do things you hate?
Is there a part of yourself that you wish you could kill?
Welcome to the dark side of your psyche. It’s for real…and it lurks beneath the surface of your conscious awareness, just outside of your control.
Your dark side cares nothing for your public image, good intentions or flowery goals.
Your dark side is powerful – and it’s hungry.

What does the dark side eat?

The dark side of your psyche has an insatiable appetite for misery and self-destruction.
If you do not come to terms with your darker needs, then those dark needs will continue to control you by producing negative emotions and behaviors that you have no choice but to endure.
The problem is, your dark side’s needs are twisted and misinformed. It wants what is bad for you.
Therefore, you cannot just feed it, although you probably have a hard time resisting. So, you’re stuck.

Welcome to the jungle…

You know you should not eat those donuts, but you do.
You know you should not smoke – it will kill you one day – but you do.
You know you should not scream at your kids – but you do.
You know you should not argue pointlessly, but you do.
You know you should not: Sleep in, cheat on your spouse, look at porn, take drugs, drink too much, eat too much, lie, steal, avoid responsibility, hate your neighbor…
You know you should: Eat right, exercise, treat others with respect, meditate, pray, study, get enough sleep, work less, live in the moment, take your vitamins, write in your journal, live more simply, practice random acts of kindness…
The dark side just doesn’t care about any of this. When it takes over, YOU don’t care.

What are dark side needs?

Dark side needs are negative psychological attachments. These attachments are what force you – over and over – to return to an old, familiar state of angst.
Attachments prevent you from feeling confident, balanced, strong and mentally healthy. Attachments seek expression through rejection, humiliation, fear, betrayal, worthlessness and failure.
To say it plainly, part of your psyche – the dark side – NEEDS to express itself through negativity.
Negative thoughts.
Negative feelings.
Negative behaviors.
Negative people.
With your dark side pulling the strings, you cling to negativity as if it were your birthright. You do so – subconsciously – by generating continual negativity within your psyche and by attracting negative people into your life and keeping them there.

How to deal with your dark side

The solution is to consciously retrain your dark side.
You cannot retrain it, however, unless you get to know it. The biggest challenge is bringing this deeply hidden aspect of your psyche into the light of your conscious awareness.
This free video is an essential first step toward understanding psychological attachments and the self-sabotaging dark side.
Few mental health professionals understand the dark side of the psyche. They focus more on realizing conscious desires, which are often very weak by comparison. This is why so much therapy, coaching and personal development efforts fail.
The good news is, nobody is better qualified to retrain your dark side than you. Are you up for it? It will change your life.
Watch this free video about negative psychological attachments and self-sabotage to get started.

Watch the free video The AHA! Process: An End to Self-Sabotage and discover the lost keys to personal transformation and emotional well-being that have been suppressed by mainstream mental health for decades.

The information in this video has been called the missing link in mental health and personal development. In a world full of shallow, quick-fix techniques, second rate psychology and pharmaceutical takeovers, real solutions have become nearly impossible to find. This presentation will turn your world upside down.

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center and host of Mental Health Exposed, a Natural News Radio program.

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Your shadow side is a very important part of human nature

Your shadow side is a very important part of human nature

July 25, 2012 by John Smallman

One of the main issues that humans will be dealing with in the coming months is the need to acknowledge, address, and release their shadow side.  The shadow side is that aspect of self which is generally judged to be unacceptable by the family, religion, or culture in which one grows up.  Actually, it is a very important part of human nature and is needed as a balance to the aspect that is deemed acceptable.

Your illusory world deals in opposites – right and wrong, love and hate, fast and slow, etc. – and for harmony to flow these opposites must be balanced.  What generally happens, though, is that one side is judged “good” and the other “bad,” and the side or aspect that is judged bad is either kept hidden or it is buried deep within the subconscious realms of the mind.  Doing this causes stress and tension, and severely limits your creative abilities.

When you look at the lives and works of some of your most creative people, you can see that their shadow – unacceptable – side was very involved with the work they created, and in their daily lives and behaviors, and this is either ignored or patronizingly accepted as the “price” that people have to pay for “allowing” them (those incredibly creative ones) to entertain you with their great skills and talents.  But it remains unacceptable for anyone else to behave like them.

Not acknowledging the dark or shadow side leads to psychosis for many.  Others engage with their shadow side and use it to take advantage of others, and even to control them.  Those of a religious bent often berate and abuse themselves for “bad” thoughts and feelings because of their beliefs about their unacceptability. But those thoughts and feelings are quite normal; they are a part of your human identity.  So observe them without acting on them – trying to suppress them causes them to intensify their efforts to attract your attention, possibly leading you to be permanently at war with yourself – and balance them out with the aspects that you consider acceptable or “good.”

When you allow yourselves to ponder on what has previously been judged as the unacceptable, even evil, within yourselves it becomes far less threatening, and you find that it can in fact help you with your decision-making because it gives you a far clearer picture of the issues involved and how you truly feel about them.  It enables you to live in a balanced and creative way, instead of inflexibly following paths that you have always followed, believing them to be obviously and unquestionably correct.  Many of you come up against situations like this if you have children, because they constantly question everything, and if your demands are unreasonable they will tell you so.  Then you either have to use your children’s input to re-evaluate and re-assess your demands on them, or you can inflexibly insist that you are the boss and that they must do as you tell them “or else!”

Recall your own childhood and how frustrating parental demands and regulations could be.  Now, looking back, you can see that some made a lot of sense, but there were also many that did not.  So, re-assess, re-evaluate, and let go of any inflexible attitudes, thought patterns, or behaviors in which you find yourselves indulging, and enjoy the enormous sense of freedom it gives you.  Every “should” should be questioned.  But mostly people just seem to accept them and act on them, or refuse and end up feeling guilty.  And the result is fatigue and depression as you are so frequently working against your inclination, your intuition, and your own absolutely reasonable wishes.

Discipline and routine are a very necessary part of your lives in the illusion, otherwise the laundry would not get done, the children would not get fed, and your boss might fire you.  Nevertheless, do not let them rule your lives; they are there to assist you, not rule you, and yet so many of you do seem to be so ruled.  If this is how your lives feel to you, then you do need to investigate your shadow side – have you totally repressed it in order survive in an unfriendly and hostile environment?

Open up to all your thoughts and feelings, observe them without judgment, and you will most likely discover that you have been ruling yourselves, at least some of the time, with an inflexible iron hand.  You will also see that you can relax, break your self-imposed rules, and find that catastrophe does not occur.  In fact life, even in the illusion, can be far less pressured and far more fun if you just allow yourselves to be yourselves!

Your loving brother, Jesus.

[Below is the link to my radio interview with Stephen Cook to be broadcast on Wednesday July 25^th July at 9.00pm New York time. Afterwards it will be archived and available through the same link to listen to at your convenience, should you choose to do so, or, of course, not.

Love and hugs,

John.

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