The wounded self in many people wants to think that someone else can give you the love you need, fill up your emptiness, make you feel safe, define your worth, and tell you what the right thing is to do. The wounded self thinks if you give yourself up and try to be the way you think someone else wants you to be, you can get the love and attention you need to feel worthy, and the approval you think you need to feel safe. Unfortunately, there are many people, also operating from their wounded selves, who want you to give up your authority over yourself - over defining yourself and over knowing what is right for you - to them. Whether it is a teacher, a parent, a spouse, a friend, a guru, a minister, rabbi or priest, a therapist or a doctor, anyone who professes to know more than you about what is right for you is not coming from a loving adult state. A good teacher can guide you and help you find your own answers, but if that teacher professes to have all the answers for you, he or she is not supporting your highest good. https://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/4015/stop-giving-away-your-authority-become-your-own-guru.html