I release any negative beliefs about aging. I intend to be healthy and feel good until the day I die.
30 nov 2013
Soul Love
People
treat you the way you are treating yourself. For instance, if someone
is rejecting you, you can explore how, in some way, you are rejecting a
part of yourself or your soul. Perhaps you reject your deeper urges or
push away your feelings. If someone is putting up walls between you,
ask yourself where you are putting up walls in your life. If someone is
ignoring, neglecting, or criticizing you, discover the ways you are
ignoring, neglecting, or criticizing yourself.
Soul Love
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
If
you feel right now that you do not have enough money, pretend that you
have all the money you need and let the emotion of plenty come into your
body. Your subconscious does not know the difference between what is
really happening and what you imagine to be happening, so it goes out
and happily begins to create your pictures for you.
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Opening to Channel
Some
people have expectations that channeling does not always meet.
Initially some people think channeling will connect them with a wise
being who will solve all their problems without any work on their part
and without any attempt to change. Instead they find that they still
need to learn their own lessons; they are still responsible for evolving
and dealing with their own lives. Once people accept that their guides
are not going to solve all their problems, but instead will give them
the tools they need to solve their own problems, they adjust quite well.
Opening to Channel
Spiritual Growth
If
you have taken on energy that is not your own, there are ways to
release it. Stopping throughout the day and taking several deep breaths
will assist you in clearing your energy. Give yourself an imaginary
shower of light. As you increase your vibration you will recognize when
you are taking in other people's emotions, and you will stop this from
happening.
Spiritual Growth
Personal Power Through Awareness
Finding
your deepest truth means looking within. It means not blaming other
people, not playing the victim, and not spending time feeling sorry for
yourself. When you look more deeply at any situation, you can always
see that you set it up for your growth. In any situation you feel you
were a victim you always had an inkling of what was going on, and
ignored opportunities to change things.
Personal Power Through Awareness
Living With Joy
As
you go through your day, tell yourself what a beautiful person you are.
See the beauty in yourself. Feel your inner strength, acknowledge how
good and loving you are. Sense all the light around you. Acknowledge
yourself, and as you do so, look for your higher purpose.
Living With Joy
29 nov 2013
Remember what you feed grows
Remember the Aramaic phrase of Abraq ad Habra (abracadabra) which translates to “I will create as I speak”.
Sandra Ingerman
Distorsiones cognitivas que justifican el delinquir
Distorsiones cognitivas que justifican el delinquir
Héctor
Eduardo Berducido Mendoza (Universidad Mesoamericana de Guatemala), en su
trabajo sobre psicología del delincuente
dice:
"Walters,
basándose en trabajos
previos de Yochelson y
Samenow (1976), entre otros,
sostiene la tesis
de que el delincuente
persistente emplea ocho
distorsiones cognitivas básicas, que justifican el delinquir:
1.
La auto exculpación, o
justificación de las razones por
haber realizado el delito concreto,
que son del
todo irrelevantes. También incluye
el echar la
culpa de aquél
a agentes externos;
2.
El corto circuito,
que permite eliminar
la ansiedad, los miedos y los
mensajes disuasorios para el crimen mediante expresiones, gestos o
ritualidades;
3.
La permisividad o
autorización, por el
que el individuo
se arroga un
estatus privilegiado, la prerrogativa para satisfacer todos sus
deseos;
4.
El control ambiental u orientación de poder, que inducen al sujeto
a que intente controlar todas las
circunstancias que le
rodean, señalando una
visión simplista del mundo, dividido entre fuertes y
débiles;
5.
El sentimentalismo, por el que el delincuente pretende aparentar
ser una buena persona, mostrando sus cualidades positivas;
6.
El súper optimismo revela a un sujeto con una visión irreal de la
propia valía, de sus atributos y de las posibilidades de evitar las
consecuencias de sus acciones;
7. La
indolencia cognitiva supone la pereza de pensar, la ley
del mínimo esfuerzo, muy asociado finalmente a:
8. la inconsistencia en toda
empresa que se emprenda, es decir, el fracaso para comprometerse en tareas que
requieren de cierto esfuerzo y trabajo.-"
28 nov 2013
Positive mood seems to promote creativity, flexibility, cooperation and reliance
‘Whereas positive mood seems to promote creativity, flexibility,
cooperation and reliance on mental shortcuts, negative moods trigger
more attentive, careful thinking, paying greater attention to the
external world’
Joseph Forgas
Joseph Forgas
Las afirmaciones pueden hacer sentir pero a las personas con poca autoestima
Lo que ocurre es que cuando una persona con baja autoestima repite frases como 'Soy una persona querible', puede estar pensando 'Bueno, no siempre soy querible'.
Repetir frases positivas como "Soy una persona querible" o "Voy a tener éxito" hace que algunos se sientan peor con respecto a sí mismos en vez de levantarles la autoestima, según un estudio divulgado en Estados Unidos.
"Desde al menos la publicación del libro de Norman Vincent Peale El poder del pensamiento positivo (1952), los medios de comunicación han instado a la gente a decir cosas favorables sobre sí misma", indicó el estudio de sicólogos canadienses publicado ayer jueves en Psychological Science.El informe cita a una popular revista de autoayuda que recomienda a sus lectores: "Prueben recitar: 'Soy poderoso, soy fuerte, y nada en este mundo puede detenerme'". Pero el consejo no funciona para todos.
Para el estudio, los especialistas le pidieron a personas con baja y alta autoestima que repitieran la frase "Son una persona querible", para luego medir los estados de ánimo y los sentimientos de los participantes.
Lo que hallaron es que los individuos que comenzaron el estudio con baja autoestima se sintieron peor luego de repetir esa frase.
"Creo que lo que ocurre es que cuando una persona con baja autoestima repite pensamientos positivos, probablemente tenga pensamientos contradictorios", dijo Wood a la AFP.
"Por lo tanto, si están diciendo 'Soy una persona querible', pueden estar pensando 'Bueno, no siempre soy querible' o 'No soy querible en este sentido' y estos pensamientos contradictorios pueden desbordar los pensamientos positivos", explicó.
A pesar de que los pensamientos positivos sí parecen efectivos cuando forman parte de una terapia más amplia, solos tienden a revertir el efecto que supuestamente tienen que tener, dijo Wood, instando a los libros, revistas y programas de TV de autoayuda a dejar de decirle a la gente que la sola repetición de un mantra positivo levantará su autoestima.
"Es frustrante para la gente cuando lo intenta y no funciona", añadió.
Por lo tanto, las afirmaciones positivas sobre uno mismo hacen que las personas que ya se sienten mal con respecto a sí mismos no se sientan mejor sino peor, concluyó el estudio realizado por los sicólogos Joanne Wood y John Lee, de la Universidad de Waterloo, y Elaine Perunovic, de la Universidad de New Brunswick.
‘Love thy neighbour as yourself, but choose your neighbourhood.’
‘Love thy neighbour as yourself, but choose your neighbourhood.’
Louise Beal
Louise Beal
Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Wednesday November 27, 2013
Your heart helps you become congruent. It gives you clear feedback on what your deepest, truest desires are. As those desires are absolutely essential to living your highest life expression, allowing your heart to lead the way is the way to navigate your life. Your heart cannot lie to you. It only emanates truth, your truth, and leads the way to the experiences your soul desires to have.
The old ways of navigating solely through the mind and control are gone. Moving forward into this brand new age, let your heart lead the way. Embrace your intuition, your emotions, your knowing, your BEing. Flow, create, connect and love which are all specialties of the heart. Find your clarity by asking your heart. Be of service by living by the heart. Do you see? The heart is the true navigator to all the things you seek. ~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Tuesday November 26, 2013
Daily Message ~ Monday November 25, 2013
It seems silly to think anyone would push pause when they were on their way to love, to healing, to joy, to empowered living and creation. Yet you do this, time and again, every single time you fall into doubt. Allowing doubt to creep in and make you second guess your deepest longings and highest creations is simply allowing your ego self to press pause and stall your progress.
We cannot emphasize enough how important surrender, flow and intention are to living the life of your dreams. Align. Dream. Stay in that heavenly motion that holds all the magic. Know the life of your dreams is just waiting for you to stay in trust, faith and open acceptance long enough for the universe to deliver it all to you. ~Archangel Gabriel
http://trinityesoterics.com/
Finding a meaningful life, not just a happy one
http://www.aeonmagazine.com/world-views/do-you-want-a-meaningful-life-or-a-happy-one/
Roy F. Baumeister is currently the Eppes Eminent Professor of Psychology and head of the social psychology graduate program at Florida State University. He grew up in Cleveland, the oldest child of a schoolteacher and an immigrant businessman. He received his Ph.D. in social psychology from Princeton in 1978 and did a postdoctoral fellowship in sociology at the University of California at Berkeley. He spent over two decades at Case Western Reserve University, where he eventually was the first to hold the Elsie Smith professorship. He has also worked at the University of Texas, the University of Virginia, the Max-Planck-Institute, and the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences.
Baumeister's research spans multiple topics, including self and identity, self-regulation, interpersonal rejection and the need to belong, sexuality and gender, aggression, self-esteem, meaning, and self-presentation. He has received research grants from the National Institutes of Health and from the Templeton Foundation. He has nearly 400 publications, and his 20 books include Evil: Inside Human Violence and Cruelty, The Cultural Animal, and Meanings of Life. The Institute for Scientific Information lists him among the handful of most cited (most influential) psychologists in the world. He lives by a small lake in Florida with his beloved family. In his rare spare time, he enjoys windsurfing, skiing, and jazz guitar.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/roy-f-baumeister
Roy F. Baumeister is currently the Eppes Eminent Professor of Psychology and head of the social psychology graduate program at Florida State University. He grew up in Cleveland, the oldest child of a schoolteacher and an immigrant businessman. He received his Ph.D. in social psychology from Princeton in 1978 and did a postdoctoral fellowship in sociology at the University of California at Berkeley. He spent over two decades at Case Western Reserve University, where he eventually was the first to hold the Elsie Smith professorship. He has also worked at the University of Texas, the University of Virginia, the Max-Planck-Institute, and the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences.
Baumeister's research spans multiple topics, including self and identity, self-regulation, interpersonal rejection and the need to belong, sexuality and gender, aggression, self-esteem, meaning, and self-presentation. He has received research grants from the National Institutes of Health and from the Templeton Foundation. He has nearly 400 publications, and his 20 books include Evil: Inside Human Violence and Cruelty, The Cultural Animal, and Meanings of Life. The Institute for Scientific Information lists him among the handful of most cited (most influential) psychologists in the world. He lives by a small lake in Florida with his beloved family. In his rare spare time, he enjoys windsurfing, skiing, and jazz guitar.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/roy-f-baumeister
27 nov 2013
26 nov 2013
Gratitude
“Without gratitude, you may focus only on what’s lacking in your
life, rather than what you appreciate. Gratitude keeps you optimistic,
and evidence shows that optimism improves your health.”
—Lissa Rankin, M.D.
25 nov 2013
Soul Love
If
you are carrying other people's burdens, put them down. Your soul
knows that taking responsibility for themselves and their lives is one
of the most important ways people can grow and become strong. It knows
that people have worked hard to bring about their current circumstances,
no matter how difficult or unpleasant, so they can learn and grow.
Experiencing the consequences of their actions provides people with the
motivation to make changes in their lives. Saving people makes them
weaker rather than stronger.
Soul Love
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Trust
is the link between the mental world and the physical world. It
provides continuity during the time that elapses between the conception
of an idea and its manifestation. Realize that your dreams are already
real on the mental plane; they are just awaiting for the perfect time to
appear in your physical reality. Trust your higher self to bring you
the right things at the right time.
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Spiritual Growth
Expand
your consciousness by thinking of the activities in your life right
now. Ask questions such as, "What is the true meaning of this activity?
How does it fit into the larger picture of my life? How is what I am
doing adding more light to the world?" You can receive much information
about your specific life purpose and how you may carry it out simply by
asking for this information.
Spiritual Growth
Personal Power Through Awareness
Notice
your posture around other people. If you are leaning forward, you are
giving away your energy and trying to push in on other people's space.
If you are leaning way back, you are avoiding their energy, and they are
coming at you too strongly. When you are sitting or standing straight,
with your shoulders square, you are most in your power, for that is
definitely a position of balance and centeredness which allows you to
control the energy around you.
Personal Power Through Awareness
Living With Joy
Think
for a moment of today or tomorrow. What is your day like? Is there
something you could do to give love to someone or to experience more
love yourself?
Living With Joy
Whatever else each of us derives from our work...
"Whatever else each of us derives from our work, there may be
nothing more precious than the feeling that we truly matter — that we
contribute unique value to the whole, and that we’re recognized for it."
Tony Schwartz
Tony Schwartz
24 nov 2013
~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Saturday November 23, 2013
Doubt can be like a virus. It can grind your enlightenment process to a halt in record time. It can shake up your trust, not only in the process, but also your trust in your guides, in Source, and in yourself to make good decisions, as well. It leads to stagnation, resistance, confusion and discomfort.
Trust and faith are a tremendously powerful team that work together. They keep your flow moving, and keep you in surrendered alignment long enough for your heartfelt creations to come to fruition. The greater your trust, the greater your ability to live the life of your dreams.
It is completely normal to fall in and out of trust, Dear Ones! That is part of the human condition, particularly for newly enlightening humans beings. Do not beat yourself up if you find yourself in the grips of doubt. Simply resurrender. Call on your guides and helpers. Connect with the core of truth that always exists within you. Realign with Source and feel your authentic power shimmer and shine from that place.
You cannot get it wrong, Dear Ones, because once you commit to enlighten, anything else will become too uncomfortable for you. You are not being graded on this process! It is merely for you to decide how smooth and comfortable you wish you own personal journey to be. ~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Friday November 22, 2013
The enlightening human beings on your planet are the most mindful humans we have ever experienced. You are committed to their growth and expansion. You are not going to suddenly blow it, Dear Ones. It is a self correcting path, which means all movement is forward movement. Rest assured that you are ready for all of this. Trust in yourselves as being the highly advanced souls you are, making a tremendous difference in this amazing process and you will be able to move forward with a greater assuredness and confidence than ever before. ~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Wednesday November 20, 2013
Dear Ones, let us reassure you, you are doing a magnificent job! The fact that you are on the planet means you are part of the process. On a soul level, you know exactly what you are doing! The planet knows exactly what she is doing. The sun, each planet, the entire universe knows exactly what it is doing. Your lightbody, just like your physical body, is incredibly intelligent and knows exactly what it needs to do to. There is so very much action that takes place behind the scenes that you are not even aware of! Like all processes of evolution, it is growth and expansion and has its own innate intelligence.
We love that you are so very committed and diligent! Allow the process to unfold, knowing you cannot rush things, nor can you speed them up any more than you can make a flower bloom slower or faster than it is meant to. Trust that if there is anything you need, it will come into your awareness.
You do not need to endlessly look for things to release. If there is something that is not in resonance with where you are going, you will become aware of it in perfect timing and can release it when it shows itself. If there is knowledge you require, the perfect book will land in your hands, or the right teacher will cross your path. If your body requires something, it will let you know. Simply give it what it is asking for.
Take the pressure off yourselves and enjoy this incredible process! Trust in the universe and the incredibly intelligent and intricate process you are part of. If you truly wish to assist, the best way is to stay in your highest alignment through surrender and flow, faith and trust, gratitude and BEingness, and joyful expectation. ~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Tuesday November 19, 2013
You cannot be in alignment with Source and ever feel anything but love. Source is an endless wellspring of unconditional love you can tap into whenever you want, that can instantaneously fill you up until you are so full of love it is spilling out of you in all directions. All that is required is to believe and receive.
Once you truly understand you can be overflowing with pure, unconditional love any time you choose, you realize there is more than enough love to go around and you become much more generous in your sharing of it. From choosing to embrace that truth and alignment, you will suddenly find yourself much more peaceful and accepting, loving and BEing, embodying those traits like all the masters before you. ~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Monday November 18, 2013
Imagine a large department store. It has many different departments meant to meet the needs of many, yet all the departments are part of the greater whole, that of the entire store. There are many different shoppers within the store who are all equally important, freely moving to whichever area they require.
If you have no young children in your life, you would not have a need for the baby department. This does not mean that you feel there should not be a baby department in the store. This does not mean that you would shun or judge the baby shoppers. You would simply allow them to pass you by on their way to their desired department, understanding it meets their needs beautifully. You completely accept and embrace the fact that all the different areas and all the different people are absolutely perfect as part of the whole of the department store. It is clear that they all support each other.
Do you see? You are all part of the whole. You all bring your unique and wonderful energy to the whole, which is what gives it such depth, support and variety. Unity does not mean you lose yourself in any way. It simply means you are in complete acceptance of the many different aspects that exist within it, while honouring yourself as a beloved and integral part of it all. ~Archangel Gabriel
http://trinityesoterics.com/
"Let the beauty you love be what you do. There are a thousand ways to kneel and kiss the earth."
"Let the beauty you love be what you do. There are a thousand ways to kneel and kiss the earth." - Rumi
22 nov 2013
21 nov 2013
Are you attached to being right as a way to control how others feel about you and treat you?
Daily Inspiration
Are you attached to being right as a way to control how others feel about you and treat you? Do you hesitate to speak your truth because you want to be sure you are right? Protecting yourself from others' disapproval by having to be right is not loving to yourself. It is loving to yourself to speak your truth, without judgment, and then courageously deal with the results. By Dr. Margaret Paul
20 nov 2013
Soul Love
Experience
the unconditional love of your soul by receiving your soul's
unconditional love for you. Your soul loves you without needing
anything from you in return. It loves you when you are close to it and
when you are not. Its love is like a river, a current that is always
there for you to tap into.
Soul Love
Personal Power Through Awareness
When
people are angry with you, it is often an expression of their hurt.
Most people feel that they only get angry with just cause, and only get
hurt when someone lets them down, aggravates them, rejects them, or
makes unreasonable demands. But anger can also be used to control
others. Are you being controlled by someone's anger? Affirm that you
will respond to this person's higher self, not their lower, angry self.
Personal Power Through Awareness
Living With Joy
Each
time you choose to feel good about yourself, even when someone is
criticizing you, putting you down, or acting in a way that you used to
respond to with pain, you are choosing joy. Each time you do so you
create freedom in your life. You are free from needing other people to
act in certain ways for you to be happy. You are free from your own
expectations
Living With Joy
19 nov 2013
Living With Joy
Freedom
is your birthright. It belongs to everyone. Now you may say, I am not
free in this or that area of my life. I am not free to quit my job,
travel the world, or do what I want. You are free — to the degree you
believe yourself to be free.
Living With Joy
Personal Power Through Awareness
Sometimes
doubts can seem almost overwhelming, and your powerful voice must be
even louder to be heard. When you feel yourself going into doubt,
questioning your power, your interpretation of things, or your path,
talk to that voice. Ask it what it is trying to tell you. Ask what
gift it wants to give you. The sooner you acknowledge that there is a
gift in that voice of uncertainty, the more quickly it will be quiet and
assist you in having what you want.
Personal Power Through Awareness
Spiritual Growth
Love
all your thoughts, even those that are limited or fearful. Think of
them as small children needing your love and reassurance. If you catch a
negative thought, don't make yourself wrong for having it. Love all
your negative thoughts and they will have far less power over you.
Spiritual Growth
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Learn
to listen to your inner guidance. Your inner guidance will lead you to
what you are manifesting in the quickest, simplest way. Inner guidance
comes from your higher self and speaks to you in the form of feelings,
insights, and inner knowing. As your thoughts about what you want go out
into the universe, your higher self looks over past, present, and
future events; it views the connections and the situations that will
need to be created for you to have what you ask for. It then finds the
best way to bring them to you. It begins drawing to you certain people,
opportunities, and events. It creates opportunities for you to meet
people who might assist you and will also benefit from knowing you, for
the universe works for the greater good. Your willingness to be
spontaneous, follow inner urges and hunches, and listen to strong
feelings and act upon them will lead you to your goals.
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Soul Love
A
very important principle of relationships is that you cannot change
another person; you can only transform yourself. You cannot force
people to act in certain ways. Punishing, withdrawing, or trying to
make people do what you want only strengthens their resistance. It
turns your power over to others, making them the source of meeting your
needs rather than yourself. You cannot make people change; however you
can modify your reaction to their behavior. You can awaken your heart
centers and shift your perceptions, beliefs, and thoughts. You can
release needing others to alter their behavior, and love and accept them
instead.
Soul Love
18 nov 2013
~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Sunday November 17, 2013
If your life is not unfolding in a way that matches what you would like to consciously create, it is likely that there is a self-limiting belief system behind the scenes that is working against those new creations. Much like a computer virus, old worn out beliefs are only harmful when you do not know they are there. Once you become aware that there is something interfering with your operating system, you can easily take the steps required to stop any further damage and cleanse it from your system. Again, with awareness comes authentic power and the opportunity to become an even clearer beacon to what you wish to experience. ~Archangel Gabriel
http://trinityesoterics.com
Each day comes bearing its own gifts. Untie the ribbons.
Each day comes bearing its own gifts. Untie the ribbons.
- Ruth Ann Schabacker -
17 nov 2013
To be surprised, to wonder, Is to begin to understand.
To be surprised, to wonder,
Is to begin to understand.
José Ortega y Gasset
José Ortega y Gasset
Those who wish to sing, always find a song. --Swedish proverb
Those who wish to sing, always find a song. --Swedish proverb
"Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy."
"Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy." Thich Nhat Hanh
16 nov 2013
~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Friday November 15, 2013
To participate you will make the commitment, in a heartfelt and pure moment, to surrender to Source, or whichever higher power feels right to you. Then you will commit to enter and stay in the flow, with faith and trust for 21 days. This means you will simply follow the path of least resistance, and stay aware of the signs and syncronicities that will point the way on your path of ease. It means that you will commit to staying out of your own way, and allow your guides and helpers to direct you. If you fall out of surrender and flow, you will simply resurrender and reenter the flow. You will give your feedback to the universe in a clear manner by using the power tool of gratitude.
If you give surrender and flow a try, you will find yourself feeling much less stress and will find things starting to unfold in your life with far greater ease. Approach the challenge with open expectation, much like a treasure hunt, waiting to see what marvellous discovery is right around the corner. If you can start to live your life with this new navigation system, you will be openheartedly aligning yourself with the magic that exists all around you and opening yourself up to far greater delight, excitement and comfort, which is what we wish for each and every one of you to experience. ~Archangel Gabriel
http://trinityesoterics.com/
13 nov 2013
Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Wednesday November 13, 2013
Daily Message ~ Tuesday November 12, 2013
Dear Ones, worry is a very dense energy, an energy of resistance. Worry demonstrates a lack of faith and a fear of flow. Once you have fallen into worry, you have shifted out of your highest alignment and out of your authentic power.
We understand it is difficult to move out of such old, well established habits. The easiest way to move out of worry is to surrender it. Give it UP. Realign with your authentic power and focus on what it is you wish to create. Accept that you are loved, connected, helped and guided at all times, as is every single soul on the planet. By doing so you will be supporting the truth and empowerment of all, and from that vantage point you will see how unnecessary the need for worry really is. Simply put, you cannot worry about another and celebrate their divinity at the same time. ~Archangel Gabriel
http://trinityesoterics.com/
10 cosas que la ciencia dice que te harán feliz
Publicado en: Mente y Cuerpo
En los últimos años los psicólogos y
los investigadores han estudiado a personas de todo el mundo para
averiguar cómo funcionan las cosas como el dinero, la actitud, la
cultura, la memoria, la cultura, la salud, el altruismo, y nuestros
hábitos del día a día y como afectan nuestro bienestar y felicidad
general.
Aquí están 10 estrategias probadas científicamente para ser feliz.
Saborea los momentos cotidianos
Pausa de vez en cuando para oler una
rosa o ver niños jugando. Los participantes del estudio que tomaron
tiempo para “saborear” los eventos ordinarios que normalmente
apresuramos, o cuándo llegó la noche pensaban de nuevo en los momentos
agradables de su día, “mostraron un aumento significativo en la
felicidad y la reducción de la depresión”, dice la psicóloga Sonja
Lyubomirsky.
Evita comparaciones
Mientras competir con los vecinos o
parientes es parte de la cultura moderna, compararnos con los demás
puede ser perjudicial para la felicidad y la autoestima. En lugar de
compararnos con los demás, hay que centrarnos en nuestra propia
realización personal, lo que conduce a una mayor satisfacción, según
Lyubomirsky.
Dar al dinero poca importancia en tu lista de prioridades
La gente que pone dinero en lo alto de
su lista de prioridades está en mayor riesgo de depresión, ansiedad y
baja autoestima, según los investigadores Tim Kasser y Richard Ryan. Sus
conclusiones son válidas en todos los países y culturas. “Cuanto más
buscamos satisfacciones en los bienes materiales, menos las encontramos
allí”, dice Ryan. “La felicidad que trae el dinero tiene una vida media
corta, es muy fugaz.” La gente que busca tener más dinero todo el tiempo
también tiene puntuaciones más bajas en las pruebas de vitalidad y
auto-satisfacción.
Tener metas significativas
“Las personas que se esfuerzan por algo
significativo, si se trata de aprender un nuevo oficio o criar hijos
morales, son mucho más felices que aquellos que no tienen sueños o
aspiraciones fuertes,” dice Ed Diener y Robert Biswas-Diener. “Como
seres humanos, en realidad necesitamos un sentido de significado para
prosperar.” El profesor de la felicidad residente de Harvard, Tal
Ben-Shahar, coincide: “La felicidad se encuentra en la intersección
entre el placer y el significado. Ya sea en el trabajo o en casa, el
objetivo es realizar actividades que sean personalmente significativas y
agradables “.
Tomar la iniciativa en el trabajo
Qué feliz eres en el trabajo depende en
parte de la cantidad de iniciativa que tomas. La investigadora Amy
Wrzesniewski dice que cuando expresamos creatividad, ayudamos a otros,
sugerimos mejoras o hacemos otras tareas en el trabajo, hacemos nuestro
trabajo más gratificante y te sientes más en control.
Haz Amigos y Aprecia a la Familia
Las personas más felices tienden a tener
buenas familias, amigos y relaciones de apoyo, dice Diener y
Biswas-Diener. Pero no es suficiente ser el alma de la fiesta si estás
rodeado de conocidos superficiales. “No sólo necesitamos relaciones,
necesitamos allegados” que involucran la comprensión y el cuidado.
Sonríe, incluso cuando no tengas ganas
Suena simple, pero funciona. “La gente
feliz ve posibilidades, oportunidades y éxito. Cuando piensan en el
futuro, son optimistas, y cuando revisan el pasado, tienden a disfrutar
de los puntos altos y buenos”, dice Diener y Biswas-Diener. Incluso si
no naciste mirando el vaso medio lleno, con la práctica, una actitud
positiva puede convertirse en un hábito.
Decir gracias con sinceridad
Las personas que llevan un diario de
gratitud una vez por semana son más saludables, más optimistas, y tienen
más probabilidades de avanzar hacia el logro de sus metas personales,
dice el autor Robert Emmons. La investigación realizada por Martin
Seligman, fundador de la psicología positiva, reveló que las personas
que escriben “cartas de agradecimiento” a alguien que hizo una
diferencia en sus vidas puntúan más alto en felicidad, y más bajo en la
depresión y el efecto dura por semanas.
Sal y haz ejercicio
Un estudio de la Universidad de Duke
muestra que el ejercicio puede ser tan eficaz como los medicamentos para
tratar la depresión, sin todos los efectos secundarios y los gastos.
Otra investigación muestra que, además de los beneficios para la salud,
el ejercicio regular ofrece una sensación de logro y la oportunidad para
la interacción social, aumento de endorfinas y aumenta la autoestima.
Es mejor dar que recibir
Sé altruista, regala parte de tu vida y
ten un propósito en ello. El investigador Stephen Post dice que ayudar
al prójimo, el voluntariado, o donar bienes y servicios da como
resultado una alta motivación, y se obtienen más beneficios a la salud
incluso que dejar de fumar. Escuchar a un amigo, enseñar tus
habilidades, celebrar los éxitos de los demás y perdonar también
contribuyen a la felicidad. La investigadora Elizabeth Dunn encontró que
aquellos que gastan dinero en otros reportaron mayor felicidad que
aquellos que gastan en ellos mismos.
Avoid Comparisons
Comparing ourselves with others can be damaging to
happiness and self-esteem. Instead of comparing ourselves to others,
focusing on our own personal achievement leads to greater satisfaction,
according to Sonja Lyubomirsky.
Personal Power Through Awareness
You
can calm your emotions by saying inspiring, loving words over and over.
You have been given the gift of thought to help you gain mastery over
your lower self. Thought is a useful tool for personal transformation.
Your mind is a marvelous instrument, capable of bringing the light of
wisdom where there is ignorance and darkness.
Personal Power Through Awareness
Living With Joy
Some
of you try very hard all the time, pushing yourselves, rushing around
and feeling that whatever you do, it is not enough. Trying and working
hard to get things done is not necessarily the road to joy. Respect
yourself by following your inner flow. Rest, play, think, and take time
to be silent. Doing those things that nurture you are ways to increase
your self-esteem.
Living With Joy
Savor Everyday Moments
Pause now and then to smell a rose or watch
children at play. Study participants who took time to “savor” ordinary
events that they normally hurried through, or to think back on pleasant
moments from their day, “showed significant increases in happiness and
reductions in depression,” says psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky.
12 nov 2013
Soul Love
You
may be trying to find or create perfect love in your life. Pure,
clear, true love exists at the soul level, between souls. Even the most
understanding person will not always be able to love you the way your
personality wants to be loved. Some may come close, yet there will
always be places where you do not feel completely loved, understood, or
appreciated. With this knowledge, you can be more understanding and
forgiving of others, knowing that there is no way they could ever
completely satisfy you.
Soul Love
Socrates showed us that thinking the truth is not enough.
Socrates showed us that thinking the truth is not enough. Truth demands to be lived.
- Americ Azevedo -
Opening to Channel
In
conscious channeling the guide impresses the message upon your mind
through higher telepathy. As in all telepathy, general ideas can be
transmitted more readily than specifics such as names, dates, and
details. To develop the skill of getting specific details often requires
a long period of attunement with your guide. Many transmissions are
best sent as pictures and images, and then must be translated into words
using your vocabulary and conceptual framework.
Opening to Channel
Spiritual Growth
There
are many paths to enlightenment. Choose the path that is most joyful
to you and in alignment with your values. You may choose one path at
one time and another path at another time, or you may try several paths
at the same time. Go toward those disciplines you are drawn to; don't
feel you must pursue something that doesn't appeal to you just because
others say it is the "right" way to grow.
Spiritual Growth
11 nov 2013
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Think
of being "rich" as having enough wealth to carry out your life's work.
You may not need many material possessions to have "enough". For
instance, your life purpose may be to work with nature. You may live in a
log cabin, spend little money, and still have all the natural resources
you need to carry out your purpose. In that case, you would be rich.
What is important is having enough money to do the work you came to do,
and not having so much that it keeps you from the work you came to do.
Having enough money means being able to put your vision into action, to
transform the energy around you into a higher order. Some people may
need many material things to accomplish their life purpose. They may
need to work with a group of people who will only listen to and respect
them if they have an appearance of wealth and power.
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
The
greatest miracle is life itself. You are the miracle, and you can
create anything you want, which is another great miracle. There are no
barriers, no limits to what you can have. The only limit is what you
can picture for yourself, ask for, and believe you can have.
Creating Money: Attracting Abundance
Opening to Channel
We
guides have many ways to reach you. We may send you a greeting in the
way of a rainbow or a special crystal. The lyrics of a song you just
heard on the radio may seem to speak directly to your heart. You may
have a dream with an answer in it. A class or teacher may help you find
the answer. Guides have many ways to reach you.
Opening to Channel
Personal Power Through Awareness
Honoring
your deepest truth is a great gift to you and to the other person.
This does not mean that truth should be expressed by making the other
person wrong. Your deepest truth will be spoken with love for yourself
and for the other person. If what you say is damaging or harmful to the
other person, then you have not come from your deepest truth, which is
always loving.
Personal Power Through Awareness
~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Sunday November 10, 2013
http://trinityesoterics.com/
10 nov 2013
9 nov 2013
~Archangel Gabriel
Daily Message ~ Saturday November 9, 2013
http://trinityesoterics.com/
How to Be Loving Instead of “Too Nice” — by Doreen Virtue
Assertiveness
for Earth Angels
"Earth
Angels are obsessed with other people’s happiness. If anyone whom you love is
unhappy, you become upset. You may blame yourself for their unhappiness, which
creates the Earth Angel cycle of co-dependency, where your own happiness is
dependent upon another’s. And since you can’t control other people’s happiness,
you feel unable to predict or control your own happiness since it’s contingent
upon others being happy.
Earth
Angels are usually “conflict phobic,” meaning that they fear arguments and
confrontations. Angry people are the opposite of happy people, to an Earth
Angel. So if faced with an angry person, an Earth Angel will shut down and
usually comply with the angry person’s wishes. Earth Angels feel like it’s
their fault if someone’s unhappy or angry. They feel like they’ve failed in
their mission to bring happiness to others. As a result, Earth Angels will do
practically anything to keep the peace!
Their
conflict phobia makes Earth Angels targets for manipulative people who take
advantage of others’ niceness. Before they learn their Earthly lesson about
holding boundaries, Earth Angels usually fall under the spell of narcissistic
people who only care about their own needs. We’ll discuss this topic in depth
throughout this book.
Earth Angels
find themselves in a bind because their life purpose is to bring peace to the
world. Earth Angels are lights sent from heaven to shine peace and happiness
and lift others’ consciousness and vibrations. So Earth Angels are usually the
world’s kindness, nicest, and gentlest people! In fact, they pride themselves
on being sweet in the roughest of situations (although Earth Angels do lose
their tempers when pushed to their limit).
Earth
Angels view themselves as tough, even though they’re highly sensitive. They
shoulder other people’s burdens and rarely ask for help from others. If help is
offered, Earth Angels won’t accept it. They’re afraid of “bothering” anyone. An
Earth Angel thinks: “If I allow this person to help me, I’m making them go to a
lot of trouble which might result in them feeling tired or sad. I don’t want to
inflict that on another person, so I’ll just do everything myself.”
Because
Earth Angels can see everyone’s hidden potentials and inner light, they tend to
overlook other people’s hurtful behavior – especially towards themselves. An
Earth Angel will make excuses about someone who’s mistreating them. The Earth
Angel will say, “Oh they didn't mean it, it wasn't that bad,” or “They were
just having a bad day.” The person who’s acting hurtfully doesn't need to
expend any effort in justifying their behavior, because the Earth Angel does it
for them!
How is
someone supposed to learn about the effects of their behavior if Earth Angels
are constantly making excuses for them? How is a person supposed to take
responsibility for their life, if Earth Angels are offering to do everything
for them?
Earth
Angels are here to bring more light into the world, not to enable people’s
egocentric behavior! By constantly giving in all of their relationships, Earth
Angels suffer from symptoms of imbalances, including:
Resentment.
Feeling used for being nice, and not having the niceness reciprocated. This
resentment builds up and becomes a toxic acidic energy which sours the Earth
Angel and can lead to health consequences.
Fatigue.
Constantly giving is draining on your time, energy, finances, and other
resources. You may stay up late and get up early to have enough time to give to
others.
Money
Issues. Are you paying for everything? This is an unhealthy imbalance in your
relationships.
Health
Issues. Earth Angels develop serious health issues from their energy
imbalances. These can range from skin issues (repressed anger) to weight issues
(protecting yourself with body fat) to throat issues (fear of speaking up) to
breast issues (nursing everyone until you’re drained).
If you have
high self-esteem, you’ll choose relationships with nice people who won’t take
advantage of you. However, most Earth Angels are attracted to unhappy people
who need “fixing.” This gives the Earth Angels a sense of purpose.
You might
meet truly nice people, but not notice or be attracted to them because they’re
already healed. So your heart beats faster when you meet unhappy or angry
people, because they present a challenge. “I can make him happy,” you
unconsciously decide.
Other
people can sense that you’re desperate for them to be happy. So they start to
take advantage of you and depend upon you for their entertainment, support, and
happiness. And when they’re unhappy (which is most of the time, because only
they can give happiness to themselves and we’re unhappy when we’re taking
advantage of someone else, or looking outside of ourselves for happiness), they
blame you! And you then blame yourself and your light dims.
Part of
your life’s purpose is learning how to have healthy boundaries with others.
It’s about loving people in a way that’s healthy, instead of “enabling” them.
"The
only way to deal with a selfish or narcissistic person or corporation is to
have clear boundaries. They will only respect you if you stand up for yourself.
If you just smile and go along with them, they won't respect you, and they'll
abuse you even more.
You can
have boundaries and stand up for yourself lovingly and peacefully. But being
conflict-phobic and avoiding conflict just invites more abuse from those who
are narcissistic.
Narcissists
will try to control you by manipulating you with fear. Studies show that
animals or people who surrender to physically or emotionally abusive situations
develop "learned helplessness" or depression.
There is
NOTHING TO FEAR by speaking up, as long as you do so with love and peace.
Speaking up and setting clear boundaries is the only way to gain respect from
your own self and those who aren't naturally thoughtful.
In what
ways have you stood up for yourself? And what did you learn from the
experience? "
"Do
people take advantage of your niceness? In her new book,
Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How To Be Loving Instead of “Too Nice”,
Doreen Virtue teaches Earth Angels—those extremely sweet people who
care
more about others’ happiness than their own—how to maintain their inner
peace and loving nature while at the same time holding boundaries. It’s
about discovering and overcoming fears about saying “no,” and about how
to ask for what you want from those around you and from the universe.
It’s for anyone who wants to learn the art of speaking up in
relationships and in their activism about issues related to the
world—and negotiating your earthly needs in heavenly ways.
Avoiding
Conflict
Whenever we
avoid conflict by keeping our feelings to ourselves, we do ourselves and others
a disservice. This is a form of dishonesty and manipulation. We’re trying to
control the other person’s reactions by controlling what we tell them.
So when
someone asks you if you’re upset and you say that you aren’t when you really
are, you’re being controlling. You’re trying to keep them from being angry with
you or from starting an argument with you. Or, you’re holding your feelings
inside to prevent the other person from seeing that you are hurt.
Now, that
doesn’t mean you have to go to the other extreme and bulldoze the other person
with the blunt truth.
There’s an
in-between way to handle conflict that’s just right and very healthy and
honest. After you’ve collected your thoughts and feelings, go to the person and
say this magical phrase: “I’d like to clear some things with you.”
This
nonthreatening phrase keeps communication open because the other person doesn’t
feel accused. Start by taking a deep breath and silently praying for strength
and a clear mind. Even though your heart may be racing and you might even be
perspiring, know that anytime you do something for the first time, you’ll feel
intimidated or afraid. Each time you practice a new behavior, it becomes more
natural and easier.
Look the
other person in the eye and say to him or her from your heart and without
apology: “I really care about our relationship, so I need to share my feelings
in order for us to clear them.”
Now, the
other person may feel threatened by this and might immediately become defensive
or even argumentative. Don’t let this throw you, unless the other person
becomes verbally or physically abusive.
(Don’t try
to negotiate with an abusive person, especially if he or she intoxicated. If
abuse occurs, leave immediately and seek appropriate support or protection.)
In most
situations, others will be open to hearing you. During your discussion, it’s
vital that you own your feelings. This means: don’t use blaming or shaming
words. Even if you do blame them, saying that you do will shut down all further
communication.
Use phrases
such as I feel, I felt, and to me. This way, you’re not poking and prodding at
the other person and inadvertently provoking their defensiveness.
Do your
best to keep your cool while talking about and owning your feelings. If you
start to cry, let yourself be real. The same with anger: allow yourself to be
authentic, but don’t act on this emotion, such as by yelling or calling names.
Also, please don’t put yourself down in any way.
Don’t
diminish, disparage, or apologize for your feelings . . . ever! Remember: You
have a right to your feelings, even if other people don’t understand or agree
with them! Your feelings are your signals of deep truths inside of you. They’re
the language of your soul, and they need you to listen to them.
After
you’ve talked about your feelings, allow the other person to explain his or her
own. There are always two sides to every story. However, notice your gut
feelings while you’re listening. If you get an uneasy feeling that the other
person is covering his or her tracks or being dishonest with you, then note
that—because he or she probably is.
As your
assertiveness level grows stronger, you’ll have the courage to say to a person
who’s lying to you, “I don’t believe what you’re saying,” or something
equivalent. But for now, just notice that you get the feeling that he or she is
being dishonest, manipulative, or defensive.
This isn’t
the kind of person you want to spend much time with. Those are toxic behavior
patterns that permeate all of that individual’s relationships.
If the
other person starts blaming you or is defensive, the conversation will go in an
unhealthful direction. Blaming is a key symptom of the ego’s fears about being
exposed. As long as one or both of you are involved in blaming, nothing will
get resolved.
Toxic
relationships will pull you down every time. You don’t need to have a toxic
relationship when there are so many nontoxic potential friends and partners
available. Never believe you have to settle for an unhealthy relationship. You
don’t.
Boundaries
A boundary
is your limit, which no one can overstep or violate. No matter who the other
person is or how much you love him or her, your boundary is something that he
or she is not allowed to breach.
For
instance, I have boundaries in all of my relationships that dictate that you
must treat me with respect. I, in turn, will treat you with respect. This is a
nonnegotiable boundary for me, and if anyone violates this and is disrespectful
toward me, I will try to clear the energy by discussing my feelings and
boundaries, and then listening to the other person. If he or she continues to
be disrespectful toward me, the relationship is over, without any guilt on my
part. I still love the person, but because of the behavior overstepping my firm
boundary, I no longer have contact with him or her. Boundaries are a necessary
part of self-care, just like washing your hair or wearing shoes to protect your
feet. They are healthy, normal, and necessary.
Every
relationship has issues and negotiations about each person’s personal
boundaries. So it’s not whether you have conflict, but how you deal with
conflict that matters for a long-term relationship.
Personal
boundaries include how much . . .
. . . body
space and distance from other people you need.
. . . time
alone you prefer.
. . .
affection and romance you need.
. . . you
need to hear words of affection.
. . . you
need your personal items to be left alone and untouched by others.
. . . you
require honesty, reliability, and sobriety within the relationship.
. . .
financial equality and fairness matter to you [. . . and so forth].
Part of
being an assertive Earth Angel is learning how to have the strength and the
courage to maintain your boundaries. It can get exhausting when it feels like
other people are trying to step all over your boundaries. It might wear you
down, and you start to think: Does this really matter? Well, it does!
Your inner
self relies upon your outer self for caretaking. You might say that your inner
self is like a little child you’re nurturing. That means that if it’s tired or
needs to play, your outer self should honor this and not push your inner self
beyond its limits.
Even though
the other person may be disappointed or even angry when you say no, believe me
when I tell you that he or she does understand. Remember that the other person
is human, too, and knows what limitations are like. Even if your refusal comes
as a disappointment, deep down he or she will respect you for it!
When you
say no, you’re modeling healthy behavior for others. Part of the reason why
they may react angrily toward you is because it’s never occurred to them that
they could say no to unreasonable demands put upon their own time!
So when you
do something that people haven’t seen you do previously—like saying no—they may
be surprised. They may take your no personally, and it’s okay for you to
briefly explain that this isn’t anything personal and has to do with you
maintaining clear boundaries with respect to your schedule.
Don’t feel
like you have to explain why you’re saying no, though. The more you explain
why, the more leverage the other person has, which he or she can use to
manipulate you into changing that no into a yes.
Boundaries
mean that you teach people what you will and won’t accept in the relationship.
They can be a lot of work, but that’s what it takes to build a healthy relationship
with yourself and others.
Another
important boundary is to respect your right to schedule your time. Don’t allow
others to dictate your schedule to you. For instance, you have the right to not
answer the phone or doorbell when it rings, and to not feel obligated to
immediately answer e-mails or social-media posts. If someone asks you to drop
everything to drive him or her across town, you have the right to say no. It’s
like the old adage “A lack of planning on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency
on my part.” We must overcome impulsive rescuing tendencies.
Source Is
the Only Source
A lot of
people use guilt to manipulate others into getting their way. They also include
flattery mixed with guilt. So, as an example, they’ll say, “Only you can help
me; and if you don’t help me, there will be horrible consequences for me.”
As a
sensitive Earth Angel, you don’t want anyone to suffer, so you allow the other
person’s words to manipulate and control you. Then you feel weak and used, as
well as resentful and angry. Add to this the frustration that arises because
you’ve backtracked on your promise to take excellent care of yourself . . . and
you’ve got a heap of toxic energies inside your mind, emotions, and body.
It’s so
important to remind yourself that every person has the same Source: God. Those
who play with your emotions to get their way are creations of God, just like
you and everyone else. You’re not their God, nor are you their Source. So,
allow Source God to be the person’s caretaker. Pray for guidance about how you
can truly help him or her gain strength and be self-sufficient.
Of course,
there will be instances where you’re acting as an Earth Angel and bringing
forth God’s help through your efforts. But those instances are clearly guided
by love, not by guilt.
If you’re
giving because of guilt, it’s not true or pure giving, as was discussed in the
previous chapter. Your gift out of guilt is tainted with toxic energies."
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