Your beliefs bind you to the illusion

09/30/2012 by John Smallman

The excitement mounts as your awakening draws ever closer.  You have been waiting a long time for this and you will not be disappointed.  Some of you have had so called “peak experiences,” when whatever you were doing flowed perfectly and at a level of competence or ability that was way beyond what you would describe as normal.  It was uplifting for you, even galvanizing, because it seemed that you could do no wrong, could do nothing to interrupt or prevent this energetic flow from delivering the most remarkable outcome.  The sheer wonder of moments like those are as nothing compared to what awaits you upon your awakening.
The journey to reach this stage in your evolution has indeed been arduous — a long and exhausting endeavor — but the end is in sight, and even though you have doubts, deep within yourselves you have a certainty, a knowing that this is true.  When you relax, meditate, or pray, seek out this certainty within yourselves; focus on it and intend that you awaken, because doing so reminds you that this is your destiny and that it is God’s Will for you.  By doing this regularly you allow yourselves to confirm that deep inner knowing and your doubts fade.  You are on your way Home, and nothing will divert you from that path because it is calling to you so irresistibly.
You are all divine beings playing imaginary games, but because you are divine the power of your collective imagination is intensely powerful, and because of how you chose to play your games it has convinced you that the games are real. When you believe in something and succeed in convincing yourselves that it is the truth it becomes very tough for you to see through that belief and recognize it for what it is – an opinion with which you have identified – because your beliefs become your identity, and you think that if they are removed you will cease to exist.  A terrifying thought, and so you tend to cling to them ferociously and inflexibly.
Your beliefs bind you to the illusion because they are co-dependent and inseparable from one another.  Nevertheless, your inner knowing is constantly attempting to bring this into your awareness by presenting you with new information so that you can look at these viewpoints dispassionately, without being subject to their demands for your allegiance or loyalty.  Beliefs can be changed or discarded, as your knowledge and experience show you their inadequacy, leaving room for an expansion of your consciousness and enabling you to accept new ideas and information as they are presented to you.  There is infinite knowledge available to you, and you can deepen your awareness and wisdom if you will make room for it by questioning your beliefs in response to new information.
The illusion is a state of limitation and anything that you can do to dissolve those limitations is a step on the path to leaving it behind.  Using your mind to uncover the nuggets of wisdom contained in every field of human endeavor can be most inspiring.  Every day new knowledge and wisdom are being discovered in areas that had previously been thought to have been fully explored, and there is no end in sight.  Temporary halts occur when inflexible beliefs prevent what has been newly brought to light from being properly examined.
Beliefs are like addictions; you get hooked on them.  Everyone has had the experience of forming a belief about someone they have never met but have heard of, and later, on meeting them and getting to know them, they have been nonplussed to discover that the imaginary perception that they had invented bears practically no resemblance to the person, and they have to change or adjust their belief accordingly.
You all have beliefs that have become deeply ingrained over the course of your lives and which you never question – you had a thought, it made sense to you at the time, and it became a belief, or your parents or teachers led you to believe that something was a proven fact – and then one of your children or one of your younger friends or associates draws to your attention its invalidity.  That can be very unsettling for you!  Maybe you refuse to look at it from their perspective (admitting to yourselves that you have been wrong all these years can be very painful) and get angry with them as you try to defend it.
However, when you can begin to question your beliefs without fear, and release those that no longer serve you, you will uncover within you a sense of freedom, a sense of space, and you will feel lighter.  Most of you know people who have inflexible beliefs and attitudes and with whom it is difficult, if not impossible, to have a meaningful conversation.  When someone like that comes to mind remind yourselves that everyone is a mirror in whom you see your own reflection.  At first it is hard to admit that to yourselves, but you are all aware of having noticed others not seeing, or choosing not to see, their faults or inadequacies very clearly reflected back to them.  Are you really so different?
Having the courage to recognize and admit that you might be wrong is very empowering, and your fears and anxieties drop away as you discover that to do so is not life threatening.  Not only that, but a new vista of possibilities opens up before you, inviting you to explore it, and your knowledge and wisdom expand as you allow yourselves the freedom to observe without rushing to judgment.  Your need to instantly identify and slot information into what seems to be the appropriate space weakens, and you find that you can happily wait with uncertainty until enough information arrives to allow you to file it correctly.
Within the illusion enormous quantities of information, which could be most helpful in resolving issues and bringing light to tricky situations, is misidentified in the heat of the moment, causing confusion and suffering for those involved.  When you can allow yourselves some time to ponder on a problem or a situation, instead of needing to rush to find and embrace the answer (thus demonstrating your brilliance), many painful misunderstandings can be avoided, as can the stress and anxiety that they induce.
Loving attitudes lead to loving words and actions gently and smoothly delivered. To rush is distracting and confusing, and it often leads to unnecessary and painful misperceptions that can result in inappropriate reactions leading to conflict.  Take your time.  You always have plenty, so do not rush — or allow yourselves to be rushed.  Behave lovingly in every situation, and enjoy the enormous reduction in stress and anxiety that it brings you.  It is a very big change in behavior and attitude for most of you, and demands your constant awareness, but your guides and angels are with you constantly to help and encourage you, and the rewards you will receive far outweigh the effort involved.
With so very much love, Saul.

In truth, there is nothing to judge

September 30, 2012 by John Smallman

The river of time — that aspect of the illusion of which many of you are most conscious — is flowing swiftly and smoothly, carrying you insistently and unfalteringly along with it towards your divine destination.  Regardless of any doubts or uncertainties that you may harbor your arrival is assured, divinely assured.  Focus on the absolute certainty of that assurance when doubts or anxieties arise within you, knowing, as you most definitely do, that your Father’s Love for you is drawing you irresistibly homeward.
You have a saying, “Home is where the heart is,” and the heart of your true Self is eternally at Home with your heavenly Father.  Nevertheless, that does not appear to be the case as you contend with the problems and anxieties with which the illusion continuously presents you, while you strive determinedly to find your way out of it and back to that glorious state.
As ever-greater numbers of you decide that you have had enough of this insane suffering and resolve to bring it to an end, your striving becomes more diligent and effective.  And because it is your spiritual intention and because you are divinely assisted, there is nothing that can prevent your awakening from occurring just as divinely intended.
All you have to do is maintain focus on your intent to awaken, and take the essential personal steps that go with that intent by releasing all thoughts and ideas from your minds that are unreal.  Only Love is real, so it is very easy for you to identify what you need to release, and you have abundant help from those in the spiritual realms to make the releasing a breeze.
Sometimes you may feel that certain offenses are unforgivable, especially if the perpetrator either claims that they were justified or denies that they occurred. Remember though, you are all mirrors to one another, and what you most dislike and take issue with in another is frequently something that you need to address in yourselves.
Start, therefore, by honestly addressing any attacks that you have instigated; recall the circumstances, and determine if you still feel that you would need to respond to that cause in the same way and with the same intensity.  Maybe now, well after the event, you would prefer to forget that it had ever happened?  Also, if you have recently succeeded in weaning yourself off some habit that you disliked or had become ashamed of, realize that observing it in others still pushes your buttons and possibly presents you with an intense need to proselytize and inculcate in them your own beliefs.  Then remind yourselves how bitterly you resented it when others tried those methods on you!
It truly is a question of being aware of your humanity and of the failings that go with that state.  “To fail is human,” is to quote a well-known cliché, and it is now time to learn that the only way out of this circle of failure is through forgiveness.
First, understand why you behaved badly and honor the reasons you gave yourself for doing so: the mitigating circumstances as you saw them at the time. Then, with your new understanding, forgive yourself for reacting too swiftly in the moment, as many people do, instead of responding after due thought. Accept that you, like others, are not and never can be perfect while embodied within the illusion, but that, nevertheless, it is never your intention to react by attacking or offending others.  Use this self-awareness to show you that you are making progress because your intentions are good, even if you cannot always follow through on them.  Forgive yourselves, make amends if necessary and possible, and then move forward without dwelling on what might have been. What happened happened, and you learnt a valuable lesson.
Once you start to see yourselves in this light it becomes much easier to forgive others their faults.  Having started on this path you will find yourselves wondering why someone is misbehaving, and recognize it as a cry for love to which you can then respond appropriately, instead of reacting angrily to their misbehavior.  Your new style will bring you far more peace than did the old one, and your levels of stress will reduce.  Being a loving being is good for you and for your health!
And whenever you find yourselves doubting your value to society, to the world, or to God, remind yourselves very firmly that you are divine beings whom He has created perfect, and that your experiences to the contrary are, however real and painful they may seem to be, totally illusory and will be gone when you awaken. As beloved children of God you are of infinite value because Love is your eternal and unchanging essence.  Relax into the knowledge of this divine truth which you can find within yourselves when you let go of judgment, because, in Truth, there is nothing to judge.
Your loving brother, Jesus.

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The remaining conflicts now in progress are the last to arise on the planet

September 26, 2012 by John Smallman

Love is the antidote to the contagion of pain and suffering in which so many are engaged.  For eons you have tried to bring peace forcefully into being – by authoritarian legislation backed by penalties and punishments, by criminal violence against one another, by conflict between groups, and by wars between nations – and you know from your history and from personal experience that it simply does not work.  The remaining conflicts that are now in progress, even though they may appear insoluble, are the last to arise on the planet, and they will cease because the people who are engaged in them have had enough; and even as they fight they fully understand that violence leads only to further violence and not to solutions.
As Light-bearers, your task is to embrace the peace within yourselves by releasing all feelings of righteousness that are causing conflict within you.  The inflexibility of righteousness is a dead- end street.  You have been preparing to do this all your lives as reason, intelligence, and comprehension have shown you the inadequacy of the traditional ways of attempting to solve problems and achieve agreement.  It takes courage to change . . . and determination . . . and intense focus.  You have those talents, those strengths, and you are being fully supported in your intention to use them by the divine energy field that has enveloped you in order to ensure your success.
Make and maintain contact with others who hold the same intent because this intensifies the field and spreads it out to be shared worldwide.  What each one of you is doing is having effects that are being felt everywhere on Earth; nowhere remains unaffected by the loving intentions that you hold, demonstrate, and share.  The Peace of God surrounds the planet and you are the conduits through which It is flowing with increasing intensity and abundancy to embrace all of humanity.
Initially, many resisted this divine energy because it seemed so unrealistic, so unlikely to have any affect, so weak.  But now its strength and effectiveness are becoming visible as more and more people open themselves to allow it to flow through them.  It is demonstrating its power as it flows through each one of you and strengthens your courage to be peaceful and loving at all times, even when it seems that the situation demands virtuous, well-controlled violence.  Virtuous, well-controlled violence has always been proved ineffectual in the long term, whatever success it may seem to achieve in the moment.  You now understand this and are refusing to revert to that kind of behavior.  And your refusal to return to the old ways is in itself an enormously powerful and uplifting form of energy.
You are fully backed by God in your selfless and indefatigable drive to be constantly loving exemplars of the path to peace, and this will ensure that a just, gentle, and generous society is born from the evolutionary development that humanity is undergoing, in which you are all honored, respected, and valued, as God honors, respects, and values each and every one of you without exception.
The progress that you have made over the last six or seven decades is truly remarkable, and once again demonstrates the infinite Wisdom of God Who granted you the freedom to evolve at your own pace over the eons, because He knew that you would not fail to return to your natural state of Love and oneness with Him.  Within the illusion it has not been at all obvious to you that His faith in you was justified, as your history shows you.  Nevertheless, it is now becoming apparent that His faith in you is totally justified.  How could it not be?  He is the Source, infinite Knowing, infinite Wisdom, infinite Love, and He would never permit a situation to exist in which even one of you could lose your way and become separated from Him.
So, I say to you again: release your doubts, your worries, your anxieties, and focus on the Reality, the Truth, and the intensity of His eternal Love for you, and know that arrival at your heavenly destination is divinely pledged and assured — and is therefore inevitable.
Your loving brother, Jesus.

You will begin to experience strange thoughts or intimations

09/26/2012 by John Smallman

The field of divine Love enveloping Planet Earth is having an enormous effect on humanity.  Its influence is irresistible and irreversible, and because of it you are all moving towards Love and away from fear.
Wars, terrorist attacks, criminal activity, and political activity in every field – international affairs, corporate, local, educational, health, religious, etc. – are all driven by fear, and have been for eons.  Fear is so ingrained in humanity, in every nation, race, and culture, that it is very difficult to eradicate.  Nevertheless, that is what you have been doing very slowly for a very long time, and in the last few decades your rate of progress has been accelerating.
Love is the divine force field, It is eternal, It is one, It is without opposite, It is that in which all that exists is incorporated and unified.
Fear is unnatural, unreal, an imaginary concept that you invented and about which you then made inordinate assumptions.  You then used those assumptions to build belief systems that drove you into separation and confusion.  Your belief in your unreal reality became very strong as a result of the suffering you experienced, and you found yourselves seemingly trapped in a hostile environment from which there seemed to be no exit.
Your beliefs in anything other than Love are groundless, and yet you continue attempting to maintain them.  However, they are weakening rapidly now as the effects of the divine Love field enveloping the planet make it ever clearer that it is the old inflexible belief systems which are the root cause of all your problems. You have spent eons defending with your lives — and by destroying the lives of others — beliefs that have no basis in fact, but are merely the egoic opinions of those who live in fear and need some kind of comforter to prevent them falling into blind panic.
The Love field enveloping the planet is all pervasive, it is percolating the energy field of each individual human and making it part of itself.  Many are feeling this happening and are experiencing it as strange moods and emotions, ones with which they are unfamiliar.  Initially it is rather unsettling because they are accustomed to being and feeling wary, unsure, anxious, and this new energy is dissolving those sensations and replacing them with a sense of trust and safety — a feeling that all manner of things will be well.  And of course it makes no sense because the environment around them appears unchanged, as unsafe and threatening as it has always been.
Because Reality is not composed of physical matter, but of limitless potential possibilities, it is very difficult for you to grasp the idea of it, except very vaguely. In fact while you remain wedded to the apparent reality of the illusion it is impossible for you to understand.  The illusion is solid stuff, or so it seems to those experiencing it, but it is not, and your science has proved that. Nevertheless, you experience it that way, and your physical senses are unable to make sense of or understand the non-physicality which surrounds you and from which you built the illusion.
Your intuition does give you intimations of Reality when you do not shut it down in favor of “real,” physical stuff.  Many of you have on occasion responded to your intuition and been amazed at the results, but then you dismiss those results as coincidences, oddities, inexplicable aberrations, and you move on with your lives.  Every now and then you recall them and are puzzled by them, but they are disturbing for you because they seem so unaccountable and so you do not dwell on them.
With the divine energy field enfolding the planet with increasing intensity you will begin — if you have not already started — to experience strange thoughts or intimations that have never occurred to you before but that make complete sense to you.  It will be a deep knowing, not an opinion or a belief but a knowing, something that has never felt surer to you.  It will be loving and accepting, peaceful, inspiring — a vivid understanding that you are indeed a divine being and that all of humanity is like you and one with you.  In that moment, unconditional Love will fill your heart for all sentient beings, completely indiscriminately.
At first it will be only momentary and it will shock you, but it will invigorate you with a new vitality or liveliness.  Your perceptions will become brighter and that moment will be unforgettable.  As the moment of your awakening approaches, these occurrences will become more frequent and the validity of your faith in God unshakable.  When you pray, meditate, or just relax, intend to feel this newly alive life coursing through you and bring it into being.  It is your destiny, and you have limitless help from the spiritual realms to assist you in doing so.  And that is where you need to focus your attention and your energies.
With so very much love, Saul.

How to Practice Safe Optimism

Is it possible in the worst of times to see the best possibilities? And if it is possible, is it desirable? According to a US News and World Report poll, a full sixty percent of Americans said that President Obama's inauguration made them "feel more hopeful about the next four years." While the economy's growth charts are crashing, various news outlets are reporting a surge in spirit. What gives?
What does it really mean to be optimistic? Aren't we leaving ourselves unprepared? Is optimism another unwise strategy that looks too good to be true, because it is? How can it be OK to see things in a positive light when we are inundated with bad news, afraid to open our 401k statements, or look in our boss's eyes? Is it really safe to be an optimist amidst the doom and gloom?
The short answer is, yes; it's not only safe, it's essential. Optimism is about seeing potential and working creatively with-- but not being limited by-- the challenges. That is exactly what we need right now. It's about seeing the glass half full, not deluding ourselves into thinking that glass is filled with champagne when it's really only tap water in an IKEA tumbler.
Optimism combines having a positive vision of the future with the substantive steps to get there. The key is tuning in to how you are narrating the story of the events of your life. While we don't have control over the goings on in Washington, or on Wall Street, we do have control over how we interpret the dramatic events playing out in our own lives. Are we borrowing ahead on catastrophe, playing up the despair, or are we staying with the facts, looking for the opportunities and making predictions that we can realize by our own actions? The choice is ours.
The idea that optimism is about blind faith just isn't so. Pepsi can tweak their logo into a happy face, but it's going to take more than a wink and a smile to get us out of these devastatingly complex times. President Obama did not tell us in his speech to go home and think good thoughts, or download Bobby McFerrin's classic, "Don't Worry, Be Happy!" on our iPods. No, our marching orders were clear: "it's time to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and start rebuilding America."
We were given an assignment, and a direction and that was the springboard for our inspiration. It's about work and effort, something each of us is capable of doing in our own way. Mobilizing our sense of agency gives us an active role and a sense of control. Control over some things is exactly what we need when problems are of such epic proportions.
At a time when our mental health threatens to crash along with the markets, optimism may also buffer and prevent that fall. Research in Positive Psychology, spearheaded by founder Martin Seligman, tells us that those who adopt an optimistic mindset are healthier, less prone to depression, live longer, and lead happier more satisfying lives. But it's not because they are in massive denial. Optimism isn't the culprit in our current economic troubles as some have suggested. Denial, greed, and short-sightedness, maybe, but not optimism.
Optimists look for opportunities for growth and positive change, but importantly stay tethered to reality. It's not about pretending that all is well or avoiding the niggling details like the billion dollar loan coming due one day. It's about thinking accurately, making calculated risks, and when things go wrong, seeing those setbacks as temporary, and using innovation, flexibility and resilience to learn from the fall and move forward. Optimism won't be the reason why people lose money or lose jobs. It will be the mindset that encourages sound and practical ingenuity and shines the light on the way out.
So if you're looking for ways to tap into some inspiration aside from replaying the Inauguration on youtube, here are some ideas to safely "go optimistic"
Strategy One: Don't force yourself to think positively! Recession? What recession?! We might as well try Dorothy's strategy of clicking our ruby slippers together and saying, "there's no place like home." Optimistic thinking is thinking accurately, it's not about sugar coating the truth or lying to yourself, because lying gets you into trouble--even with yourself. Think of the possibilities instead. Take the situation you are in and try to see it from different perspectives--call on an imaginary panel of people you respect real or fictional--what would their take be? Borrow the collective wisdom of the world as a way of getting out of a rut.
Strategy Two: Tone down your self-talk: When we are struggling, we talk to ourselves in absolutes, which only makes everything sound and feel worse: "This is the worst situation ever, I'm so overwhelmed, this will never get better, I have no idea what to do to make it better. Nothing is working in my life."
Re-tell the story more accurately by substituting words which distinguish between feelings and facts, and that distinguish between a permanent situation and a temporary one. "I'm feeling overwhelmed, right now. There are some things I can do to help myself. Some things are going well now, some other things are not." Which version of the story would you rather hear? Which one is going to get you off the couch and into your life?
Strategy Three: Specificize: Control what you can: Optimists narrow down big sweeping problems into the parts of it they can control. If we focus on what we can't control, we erroneously create feelings of helplessness--erroneous because we are blaming ourselves for failing at something that was never in our power to begin with, and in so doing, we undervalue or even ignore the aspects of the situation which we handled well when the ball was in our court.
Identify the specific problems you need to solve. Finding a job is not necessarily what we can control, applying for jobs is the part we can. Identify your goals in terms of specific steps you can actually take. By setting specific goals that are attainable, you create a sense of momentum that will keep propelling you forward.
Strategy Four: Build resilience by taking stock of your strengths: In challenging times, we often approach novel situations feeling empty-handed and underprepared; this leaves us even more vulnerable. The fact is that we face disappointment and struggle every day. Although we may be doing mental gymnastics to avoid confronting those struggles, we are tougher than we think. Our first reaction to struggle is fear, that's normal, but we can't stop there. This is the moment to regroup, look at our strengths--ingenuity, tenacity, resourcefulness, levity, whatever they may be--and keep those close at hand.
Don't limit yourself by thinking of strengths as only "smarts" or job skills, look around you at what you do to make your life run, and think of compliments that others have given you. Think about the constants in your personality--what remains undiminished by the fluctuations of circumstance. Take stock now, because you want to be ready to put your best forward when the opportunity arises.
Strategy Five: Define success flexibly: Value process, not just product An optimist hopes for the best, but has realistic expectations. There isn't just one bull's eye of success and everything else is failure. This usually means girding ourselves for slow progress and defining success broadly. When we set unrealistic expectations we manufacture unnecessary disappointment that we then have to waste our precious energy overcoming--it's an additional hurdle which we don't need right now.
When your expectations don't match reality, change those expectations rather than wrangle with reality. Lower the stakes, not the standards, don't have your whole life riding on the outcome of one event (talk about a risky investment strategy!).
Instead of focusing on what hasn't happened yet, or what you haven't accomplished yet, focus on the steps you have taken and savor the small triumphs. Change happens slowly, so we need to learn to tolerate uncertainty. The mental stretch comes from sustaining belief in the big goals while small changes happen along the way rather than just holding out for the final payoff. A building doesn't look like much in the early stages, but without those crucial first steps, there would be no building. The same is true of our own success, it doesn't seem like much at first but in time those small steps accrete and you see the fruits of your labor.
Strategy Six: Learn from your mistakes (the real risk is not learning from them...) Reality doesn't have to be in great shape for us to be optimists. In fact, where optimism is most transformational is when things aren't going so great. It allows us to see mistakes, disappointments, and poor judgments not as fatal flaws that force us to reconfigure who we are, but as part of our history--something we can learn from rather than something that weakens us.
Set aside self-blame and cataloguing reasons for your guilt for mistakes made. Focus instead on what your goal was and decide: is that still your goal, and if so, how can you better reach it the next time. Use this data to improve your knowledge of how things work. Just as kids (should) study what they got wrong on a test to learn from it, or surgeons study errors in a procedure to reduce the risk of complications, look at a situation or decision that is bothering you and identify what went right, what went wrong, and how you could even improve the outcome in the future.
Strategy Seven: Cultivate generosity and gratitude: Even those of us who may not be struggling day-to-day to make ends meet still find ourselves fearful about the uncertainty of the future. What cuts through fear and discouragement fastest is finding the small moments of meaningful connection with others. Giving or receiving, it's all good.
All of us are in a position to make a difference in someone else's life--hold a door, smile, give directions, donate cans to a food pantry. And all of us have the opportunity to find small things for which we are grateful. Take a few minutes each day to reflect on your findings. Notice how your whole demeanor changes with the unsolicited help of a friend, the humor of your children, the first sign of spring. By cultivating routines in your household of noticing the good and seeking opportunities for sharing it with others you are taking action, decisive and immediate, no votes in congress needed, that will have an impact on improving the quality of life in these challenging times.
Together we will pull out of this recession, smarter and stronger for it. The real question isn't, is it safe to practice optimism, the real question is, how can we afford not to? We can't control the events playing out in the world, but we are the only ones who can control our attitude. By focusing on what endures, what is strong, what is working, and where our potential resides amidst monumental challenges, we will take the calculated risks and use our ingenuity to overcome.
In President Obama's words: "We remain the most prosperous, powerful nation on Earth. Our workers are no less productive than when this crisis began. Our minds are no less inventive, our goods and services no less needed than they were last week or last month or last year. Our capacity remains undiminished." Optimism: safe, sound and on the rise.
©2009 Tamar Chansky

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Oneness is non-negotiable

Oneness is non-negotiable

September 21, 2012 by John Smallman

The essential changes that humanity needs to make in attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors in order to restore the normal, necessary, loving, and peaceful conditions in which you can relate to one another on every level are occurring very rapidly now.  Humanity’s region of the divine energy field — your field of consciousness — continues to strengthen and intensify as more and more of you become aware of how each one of you can and does effect it, and then very positively makes the intent to do so.  A wonderful Light is now bathing your beautiful planet and is clearly visible to all who wish to see it.  You are making astounding progress on your path to awakening, and even those who are the least aware of the spiritual dimension that is your identity will be unable to remain unaware for very much longer.  Then they too will add to the ever-growing brilliance of the Light that envelops you all.

It gives enormous joy and satisfaction to us in the spiritual realms as we observe the exponentially expanding field of love that you are creating around you to meld with God’s.  We have been with you, helping and encouraging you for eons, and now the results of our joint efforts are becoming clear.  So much progress has been achieved in just the last few decades!  God’s Will is demonstrably shown being perfectly accomplished.

You have a very restricted vision of humanity’s ability to grow and evolve spiritually, but if you could momentarily place yourselves sixty or seventy years back in time from today and experience the beliefs you had back then about what humanity might achieved by this time, and if you were now able to see, as we do, what has been achieved in that short space of time, you would be astonished.  Your doubts and anxieties would dissolve because your faith in your abilities to change the world through your thoughts and intentions would be shown to be totally valid.  The divine Will is with you constantly to assist you, you just have to allow it to become yours by ceasing to resist It.

In spite of the endemic poverty, conflicts, and self-serving, egoic agendas that seem to be driving you towards the most terrifying abyss of self-destruction — and on which the mainstream media focuses almost all of its attention — on a deeper and far more powerful level significant and substantial changes have been taking place within the collective human energy field that are leading you irrevocably towards awakening.  Your intent to evolve spiritually has intensified as you have realized that the only way to bring peace, prosperity, and happiness to mankind is by returning to your Source.  You can only do this by opening your hearts to the inflowing Love that your Father offers you in every moment because you are all spiritual beings and that is where your power lies.

Your human bodies are necessary vehicles — toys through which you play with and quarrel with one another, while you choose to remain in the unreal world that seems so convincingly real to you.  Your true nature is spiritual and you have been ignoring it while you played.  The result has been loneliness, fear, and unhappiness.  Yes, the games you have been playing brought moments of ephemeral happiness, and you have sought to increase the frequency of those moments and make them last as long as possible.  But they are as illusory as the unreal environment in which you are playing your games, and so suffering and intense dissatisfaction have prevailed.

True, eternal happiness is only available in your natural state.  For eons you have refused to believe that and so have struggled fruitlessly through competition, conflict, arrogance, beguilement, and betrayal — all to achieve the unattainable. And it will remain unattainable so long as you choose to see yourselves as separated from one another and from God, and continue to treat each other as obstructions and impediments that must be removed or destroyed in order to achieve the blessings of His eternal peace, for you and for the ones that you have decided are worthy of it.

Oneness is non-negotiable.  Finally this is becoming apparent to you, as the enormity of the error of believing otherwise dawns on you, and so you are choosing to open to Love and the inclusiveness that is Its nature.  The importance and significance of that choice is something you cannot possibly imagine as you struggle with the paradoxes and inconsistencies of human life on Earth.  Nevertheless, it is the choice that you needed to make to allow yourselves to awaken, and leave the insane nightmare of separation and abandonment to dissolve and fade away.  You have truly made the most important choice of your lives, and what this actually means will become blindingly apparent when you awaken into the brilliance of Reality — your eternal, heavenly Home.

Your loving brother, Jesus.

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LA TENDENCIA A RECETAR FÁRMACOS PARA LOS PROBLEMAS DE ANSIEDAD Y DEPRESIÓN CUESTIONA GRAVEMENTE LA CALIDAD ASISTENCIAL QUE SE PRESTA EN NUESTRO SISTEMA SANITARIO

• La terapia cognitivo-conductual, es más eficaz y económica que los fármacos para el tratamiento de la ansiedad y de la depresión.

• La terapia cognitivo-conductual es el tratamiento de primera elección para el tratamiento de la depresión leve y moderada, el trastorno de angustia, el trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo, el trastorno de ansiedad generalizada y las fobias específicas.

• La tendencia a recetar fármacos de manera abusiva cuestiona gravemente la calidad asistencial que se ofrece a los ciudadanos, así como los intereses de la industria farmacéutica en perpetuar estos modelos de actuación en salud mental.

Recientemente, en el marco de un congreso nacional sobre ansiedad y trastornos comórbidos, profesionales de la medicina han reconocido que los tratamientos farmacológicos actuales (ansiolíticos y antidepresivos) resultan insatisfactorios, ya que sólo son efectivos en la mitad de los pacientes y su administración no elimina cierta patología residual que se mantiene en el tiempo.

No obstante, a pesar de reconocer esto, y de que numerosos estudios han cuestionado seriamente el uso de los psicofármacos, se sigue ponderando injustificadamente la utilización de terapias farmacológicas mediante el recurso a fármacos de reciente aparición (denominados "duales"), nuevos antidepresivos e, incluso, anticonvulsivos. Esta opinión favorable a los fármacos se apoya fundamentalmente en que la terapia psicológica es un "artículo de lujo" (sic) en el Sistema Nacional de Salud y que no parece que nuestro modelo sanitario vaya a seguir el camino de incorporar, tal y como recomiendan los organismos internacionales competentes en salud, más psicólogos en todos los niveles del sistema sanitario.

Esta aparente contradicción de defender terapias ineficaces o, incluso perjudiciales (p.ej.: por cronificantes), por ser "más baratas" o más accesibles para los que las emplean, hace que sea necesario recordar que no hay nada más caro que lo que es inútil. Como todo el mundo sabe, generalmente lo barato termina resultando caro.

A la luz de estas declaraciones, es necesario recordar, una vez más, que:

1. El tratamiento farmacológico no es el mejor tratamiento disponible. La terapia psicológica ha demostrado ser una alternativa más eficaz y económica que los fármacos para el tratamiento de la ansiedad y de la depresión y, a diferencia del tratamiento farmacológico, no supone ningún riesgo para la salud y no presenta ningún efecto secundario adverso. Entre las ventajas que conlleva la terapia psicológica frente al tratamiento farmacológico se incluyen: el mantenimiento de los cambios terapéuticos a largo plazo, una mayor adherencia al tratamiento, una disminución significativa del riesgo de recaídas, una elevada tasa de recuperación (es decir, a diferencia de los fármacos, no deja ninguna "patología residual"), la prevención de la cronificación de la patología del paciente y la disminución del número de visitas al médico y de los días de hospitalización (con la consecuente disminución de la carga económica para los sistemas sanitarios).

2. Los organismos competentes en materia de salud -como la Organización Mundial de la Salud (OMS), el Instituto Nacional para la Salud y la Excelencia Clínica del Reino Unido (NICE), la Federación Mundial de la Salud Mental (WFMH) o la Asociación Americana de Psicología (APA)-, y las principales guías de práctica clínica basadas en la evidencia científica (tanto nacionales como internacionales), recomiendan la terapia cognitivo-conductual como el tratamiento de primera elección para el trastorno depresivo leve y moderado, el trastorno de angustia, el trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo, el trastorno de ansiedad generalizada y las fobias específicas. El tratamiento farmacológico, principalmente basado en antidepresivos o ansiolíticos, está contraindicado para mujeres embarazadas, niños y adolescentes o personas que presenten problemas crónicos de salud física, debido a los riesgos que conlleva para su salud, su posible riesgo de adicción o síndrome de abstinencia tras su interrupción brusca. Sólo en los casos más graves se recomienda el uso de medicación, y siempre en combinación con tratamiento psicológico, e informando al paciente sobre los objetivos terapéuticos, la duración del tratamiento farmacológico, los posibles efectos secundarios y los riesgos que supone.

3. La tendencia a recetar fármacos de manera abusiva (a pesar de sus efectos secundarios, de su dudosa eficacia para el tratamiento de algunas dolencias y del elevado coste económico que suponen), tiene serias repercusiones que trascienden al ámbito personal o social. Esta insistencia en anclarse en un modelo de intervención -el farmacológico- que ha demostrado no ser el mejor tratamiento disponible, cuestiona gravemente la calidad asistencial que se ofrece a los ciudadanos y pone en evidencia los intereses de la industria farmacéutica (y de determinados colectivos de la psiquiatría) en perpetuar estos modelos de actuación en salud mental.

4. Diferentes informes, como el informe elaborado por el Grupo de Política de Salud Mental del Centro de Actuaciones Económicas de la Escuela de Economía de Londres (The Centre for Economic Performance’s Mental Health Policy Group, London School of Economics), titulado The Depression Report, advierten de la necesidad de intervenir de la manera más eficaz, eficiente y efectiva sobre la elevada incidencia de trastornos mentales comunes, recomendando la intervención psicológica (por su mejor relación coste/beneficio) frente a la prescripción de fármacos. Este modelo de actuación se ha puesto en práctica con éxito en el Reino Unido, donde se han incorporado un buen número de psicólogos en los servicios de Atención Primaria para ofrecer tratamiento psicológico basado en la evidencia y cubrir la demanda asistencial que requieren los problemas de ansiedad y depresión. Los informes y estudios publicados muestran el éxito de esta estrategia de actuación frente al abordaje farmacológico tradicional, así como la gran satisfacción manifestada por parte de los usuarios de los servicios de salud de ese país.

5. En España, la Organización de Consumidores y Usuarios (OCU) ha publicado un informe en el que solicita un mayor acceso al tratamiento psicológico y más especialistas de salud mental en los centros de Atención Primaria de nuestro país, ya que "los antidepresivos y tranquilizantes se prescriben en demasiados ocasiones, a pesar de que el tratamiento de elección para la ansiedad y la depresión debe ser la psicoterapia". La OCU entiende que el coste de la generalización del tratamiento psicológico se vería ampliamente compensado con la reducción de las bajas laborales por ansiedad y depresión.

Por todo esto, podría ser útil que nuestras autoridades reflexionaran acerca de qué intereses están condicionando que no se provea a la población con los mejores tratamientos posibles, según demuestra la evidencia científica, siendo que, además, resultan ser los más económicos y los que más propician la reducción del gasto sanitario y social (incapacidad laboral) a medio y largo plazo. ¿Tiene sentido que sigamos apostando por terapias menos eficientes en un sistema público que requiere cada vez más del uso de la mayor racionalidad económica para garantizar su sostenibilidad?

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Is This Love or Emotional Dependency? By Dr. Margaret Paul

One of my clients, whose ex-girlfriend recently broke up with him, asked me the following question:

"I think I still love her, but is this love or just emotional dependency? Many times I ask myself if falling in love comes from the wounded self because (for me at least) it feels as if I can't live without the other person. When I give love from the heart, I don't expect anything back, but when I ‘fall in love’ I think this is a different energy."

Falling in love can come from two different inner states. When you fall in love from the wounded self - the ego self - you are in love with how the other person loves you. You are handing over to the other person the responsibility for your self-worth and wellbeing, and if he or she does a good job of attending to you in the way you want to be attended to, then you may say you are "in love." However, it is not so much the person you love, but how he or she loves you. When it feels as if you can't live without the other person, it is emotional dependency. The part of you that is "in love" is really a child or adolescent who is needy for love because you are not giving love to yourself or to others. There is an emptiness inside that you expect someone else to fill, because you are not taking responsibility for your own feelings of self-worth. You are attaching your worth to another's love, which is why you can't live without that person.

When you fall in love as a loving adult, instead of as a wounded, needy child or adolescent, your need for the relationship is totally different. As a loving adult, you have learned - through the consistent practice of Inner Bonding - how to fill yourself with love and define your own worth. Instead of needing someone to fill you and make you feel lovable and worthy, you already feel worthy and full of love. You experience this inner fullness because you have learned how to take full responsibility for your own feelings and needs, and you have learned to fill yourself with love from a spiritual source. This fullness overflows and you want to share this love with another person, another loving adult who is also filled with love. Your desire is to share love rather than to get love.

The kind of person you will pick will be totally different when a loving adult is choosing, than when your wounded self is choosing. The people we pick have a similar level of woundedness and a similar level of emotional health. Obviously, the more you have done your Inner Bonding work to bring love within, and the more you have learned to take loving care of yourself, the more you will be attracted to someone who also does this.

When you pick someone from your wounded self, you will pick someone whom you believe wants the job of filling you up. The problem is that the other person may be attempting to fill you up in the hopes that you will also fill up him or her. Two people who each want to get love rather than share love will eventually find themselves very disappointed with each other. They will each blame the other for not loving them in the way they want to be loved. When relationships break up, it is often because one or both partners are not taking responsibility for their own feelings and self-worth and are blaming the other for their resulting unhappiness.

If you are so attached to someone that you feel you can't live without that person, try learning to give to yourself and others what it is you want from this person. Your job is to become the person to yourself that you want the other person to be. Then you will be able to be "in love" rather than "in need." You will be able to love another person for who he or she is, rather than for what this person can do for you. Instead of needing to get love, you can give love from the heart for the joy of it, and feel filled in the giving.

Emotional Dependency or Emotional Responsibility By Dr. Margaret Paul

Emotional dependency means getting one's good feelings from outside oneself. It means needing to get filled from outside rather than from within. Who or what do you believe is responsible for your emotional wellbeing?
There are numerous forms of emotional dependency:

• Dependence on substances, such as food, drugs or alcohol, to fill emptiness and take away pain
• Dependence on processes, such as spending, gambling or TV, also to fill emptiness and take away pain
• Dependence on money to define one's worth and adequacy
• Dependence on getting someone's love, approval or attention to feel worthy, adequate, lovable and safe
• Dependence on sex to fill emptiness and feel adequate

When you do not take responsibility for defining your own adequacy and worth or for creating your own inner sense of safety, you will seek to feel adequate, worthy and safe externally. Whatever you do not give to yourself, you may seek from others, or from substances or processes. Emotional dependency is the opposite of taking personal responsibility for your emotional wellbeing. Yet many people have no idea that this is their responsibility, nor do they have any idea how to take this responsibility.
What does it mean to take emotional responsibility, rather than be emotionally dependent?
Primarily, it means recognizing that your feelings of anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, anger, aloneness, jealousy, irritation and so on (what we call in Inner Bonding 'wounded feelings') come from your own thoughts, beliefs and behavior, rather than from others or from circumstances. Once you understand and accept that you create many of your own feelings, rather than your feelings coming from outside yourself, then you can begin to take emotional responsibility.
For example, let's say someone you care about gets angry at you.
If you are emotionally dependent, you may feel rejected and believe that your feelings of rejection are coming from the other's anger. You might also feel hurt, scared, anxious, inadequate, shamed, angry, blaming, or many other difficult feelings, in response to the other's anger. You might try many ways of getting the other person to not be angry, in an effort to feel better.
However, if you are emotionally responsible, you will feel and respond entirely differently. The first thing you might do is to tell yourself that another person's anger has nothing to do with you. Perhaps that person is having a bad day and is taking it out on you. Perhaps that person is feeling hurt or inadequate and is trying to be one-up by putting you one-down. Whatever the reason for the other's anger, it is about them rather than about you. An emotionally responsible person does not take others' behavior personally, knowing that we have no control over others' feelings and behavior, and that we do not cause others to feel and behave the way they do - that others are responsible for their feelings and behavior just as we are for ours.
The next thing an emotionally responsible person might do is move into compassion for the angry person, and open to learning about what is going on with them. For example, you might say, "I don't like your anger, but I am willing to understand what is upsetting you. Would you like to talk about it?" If the person refuses to stop being angry, or if you know ahead of time that this person is not going to open up, then, as an emotionally responsible person, you would take loving action in your own behalf. For example, you might say, "I'm unwilling to be at the other end of your anger. When you are ready to be open with me, let me know. Meanwhile, I'm going to take a walk (or hang up the phone, or leave the restaurant, or go into the other room). An emotionally responsible person gets out of range of attack, rather than trying to change the other person.
Once out of range, the emotionally responsible person goes inside and explores any core painful feelings (feelings that result from others and circumstances rather than from your own thoughts and actions) that might have resulted from the attack. For example, perhaps you are feeling lonely as a result of being attacked, and helpless over the other person. An emotionally responsible person embraces the feelings of loneliness and helplessness with understanding and compassion, holding them just as you would hold a sad child. When you acknowledge and embrace the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, and helplessness over others, you allow them to move through you quickly, so you can move back into peace.
Rather than being a victim of the other's behavior, you have taken emotional responsibility for yourself. Instead of staying stuck in feeling angry, hurt, blaming, afraid, anxious or inadequate, or in the core painful feelings of loneliness, helplessness or heartache, you have moved yourself back into feeling safe and peaceful.
When you realize that your feelings are your responsibility, you can move out of emotional dependency. This will make a huge difference within you and with all of your relationships. Relationships thrive when each person moves out of emotional dependency and into emotional responsibility, and Inner Bonding is a powerful process for doing this.

Moving Beyond Emotional Dependency By Dr. Margaret Paul

Are you ready to be your own person? Are you ready to move beyond neediness and into emotional freedom? Are you ready to stop needing others to make you feel that you are okay? Are you ready to learn to fill yourself with love and define your own worth?

I hope so! Being emotionally dependent is not fun!

When you are emotionally dependent, you set yourself up to be a victim of others' choices. If others are loving and caring, then you feel good, but if others are rejecting, you feel bad. You place your emotional wellbeing into others' hands, rather than taking responsibility for your own feelings and defining your own worth. Do you really want to go on living this way when there is another, far more fulfilling way to live?

I, like most people, grew up being emotionally dependent. I spent years feeling the anxiety that comes from needing others’ approval to feel lovable and worthy. I spent years feeling the inner aloneness that comes from self-abandonment. And I spent years in therapy trying to find out what was wrong and what to do about it. Yet I never learned, in all my reading and all my therapy - and all the years I spent in school getting my Ph.D. in psychology - that the cause of all my problems was self-abandonment.

As I look back on my growing-up years, I see that there was not one person in my life that wasn’t role modeling self-abandonment. Both of my parents were deeply emotionally dependent, as were my grandparents, aunts and uncles, and family friends. Nothing in books, in the media, or in school ever taught me how to attain emotional freedom - how to take loving care of myself so that I was not emotionally dependent on others’ approval, love and attention. I was run by my desire to have control over getting approval and avoiding disapproval.

Life is totally different, now that I know that it is not only my responsibility to give myself the love and approval I used to seek from others, but it is my right and my privilege. I was taught that it was selfish to take loving care of myself - that being a good person meant sacrificing myself and taking care of others instead. I was taught that my good feelings about myself had to come from others' approval. I was told that if I loved and valued myself, I was being arrogant. "Who do you think you are?" Wow, what awful conditioning many of us experience.

I, like you, am a child of Divine Love, here to fully express the love, gifts and talents that I am. Within me - and you - is an incredible soul, the spark of the Divine within me, the part of me - and you - that is created in the image of God. It is my privilege, and yours, to take loving care of this soul - to nurture a healthy body as the house for my soul, to choose the thoughts and actions that create peace and joy within, to not indulge in thoughts and actions that create distress, and to making loving myself and others my highest priority.

When you choose the intention to learn to be loving to yourself and others, rather than the intention to control getting love and avoiding pain, you will learn how to move beyond emotional dependency and into emotional freedom. It is your moment-by-moment intention that determines your level of emotional dependency or your level of emotional freedom.

Are You Emotionally Dependent? By Dr. Margaret Paul September 17, 2012

Every few weeks I do a free webinar. People can listen on their computers or on the phone; they can write in asking questions or they can ask me directly on the phone. Here is one of the questions a woman – I will call her Susan - asked in a webinar on emotional dependency:
"When we are in a relationship and we have made our needs clear to our partner, is hanging on in the hope they will follow through with promises to meet our needs a sign of emotional dependency?"
The answer is – it depends on what needs you are taking about. There are some needs we have that can only be met by another person, and there are other needs that we need to learn to meet ourselves.
'Needs' Coming From Emotional Dependency
"I need your attention."
"I need your approval."
"I need for you to have sex with me when I want sex."
"I need you to make me feel lovable and worthy."
"I need you to make me feel secure."
"I need you to make me feel important."
"I need you to fill my emptiness."
"I need you to make me feel special."
"It is your job to make me happy."
These 'needs' are coming from self-abandonment. When you don't give yourself the love, attention and approval you need, and you don't define your own worth and learn to fill yourself up with love, then you may be needy of another making you feel that you are okay. When you are disconnected from your own feelings and from your personal source of spiritual Guidance, when you harshly judge yourself, or when you avoid your feelings with various addictions, then you will feel empty and needy inside and may pull on others to fill you and make you feel okay.
Needs That Can Only Be Met By Another

• If we are taking responsibility for ourselves and filling ourselves with love, we then have love to share. We need others with whom to share love.

• Once of our primal needs is for connection with others. But we can't connect with others unless we are connected with our own heart and soul, and with our source of spiritual guidance. While we can connect intellectually from our minds, emotional connection occurs only through the heart and soul. Without emotional connection with a partner, family and friends, we can feel very lonely.
  
  Most of us have a need for touch and affection, which is different than sex. While affection and connection can often lead to mutually-desired love-making in a committed relationship, touch and affection without a sexual agenda is important for connection.

• We also need others with whom to learn and grow. We can grow by ourselves to a limited extent, but the deeper level of learning and growth occurs in relationship with another who is open to learning.

• We need to have fun with others – to have companionship. So we need others who are available to spending time with us.

• Finally, we need to know that the other person would never deliberately set out to do us physical or emotional harm. We need to feel safe that the person has our highest good at heart, and will be honest with us, in order to have a trusting relationship.

These are the needs you can request from your partner that are not signs of emotional dependency:
"I need for you to want to spend time with me - sharing love and affection with me, connecting with me from your heart and soul, being open to learning and growing with me and playing and having fun with me. I need for you to be honest with me and to care about the effect your behavior has on me. I need to know that you support my highest good."
These are very different needs than the first list. So I would say to Susan, who asked the question: "Susan, I would guess that the needs you are talking about are from the first list, since we generally don't ask for promises for the second list. When we are connecting with ourselves and taking loving care of ourselves, we can generally sense whether or not the other person is capable of love, connection, caring, empathy, openness and honesty. These qualities are either forthcoming or they aren't. Someone cannot 'promise' to give us these things.
So look within first and see if you are giving yourself the things on the first list. Then you will be in a position to share with someone the things on the second list.

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